I hate to break it to you, but you’ve been lied to.
And you’re being lied to every day. What’s worse is you don’t know the extent it’s happening. But make no mistake; it is happening. Constantly. Every day. And the lies are coming from multiple sources…
The lies are coming from media, music, news, billboards, social media, and, unfortunately, from some of our well-meaning friends and even some pastors, to name a few.
To recognize the lies, we must be inebriated in the truth. Yes, inebriated!That’s the idea behind what Paul was talking about in Ephesians 5:18:
“…don’t be drunk on wine…Instead, be filled with the spirit.”
I want to inebriate you with the truth about marriage with this post. I want you to become addicted to this truth.
Please read it, think about it, challenge it, examine and repent how you have been enticed with the lies, and celebrate how you have been given the grace to live in the truth.
Your marriage is struggling because you believe one of these lies about marriage. I know this isn’t very counselor-like, but I have a message from your spouse and God…
PLEASE STOP IT!
Yes, living out the truth about marriage will be difficult (1 Cor 7:28). It will require you to stop serving yourself, God, and your spouse. And I know it goes against every thought (Isaiah 55:9) and inclination in your body (Genesis 6:5).
But regardless of how your spouse responds, there is joy on the other side (Habakkuk 3:17-19). I know this according to the truth in God’s word, but I also know because as I started to believe and apply these truths to my complicated marriage relationship 18 years ago, I found joy…
I didn’t find joy in my marriage, but I found joy in knowing that I was serving my savior in response to what he had sacrificed for me.
The creator of marriage has defined the truth about marriage and desperately wants you to believe everything he says about it is true.
As you understand how beautiful these truths are, your marriage will be in the best possible place to experience mutual caregiving and intimacy the way God designed it.
And having tasted it throughout the years, I can tell you it’s pretty good!
Hans co-founded Marriage Revolution with his wife, Star, in 2010. He counsels couples in The Woodlands, TX, speaks at marriage conferences around the country, and provides leadership and direction to Marriage Revolution.