Star and I led FamilyLife’s “Art of Marriage” event at a local church this past weekend and had a blast. If you haven’t attended, you need to.
One of the most practical pieces of information shared was the tips on conflict below. Check it out…
| FOCUS ON | RATHER THAN | |
| One issue | Many Issues | |
| The Problem | The Person | |
| Behavior | Character | |
| Specifics | Generalizations | |
| Facts | Judgment of Motives | |
| “I” statements | “You” Statements | |
| Understanding | Who’s winning or losing |
Although following these guidelines won’t come close to fixing all your conflicts, they will help you move towards each other as you attempt to work through them.
Hans co-founded Marriage Revolution with his wife, Star, in 2010. He counsels couples in The Woodlands, TX, speaks at marriage conferences around the country, and provides leadership and direction to Marriage Revolution.
