Star and I led FamilyLife’s “Art of Marriage” event at a local church this past weekend and had a blast. If you haven’t attended, you need to.
One of the most practical pieces of information shared was the tips on conflict below. Check it out…
| FOCUS ON | RATHER THAN | |
| One issue | Many Issues | |
| The Problem | The Person | |
| Behavior | Character | |
| Specifics | Generalizations | |
| Facts | Judgment of Motives | |
| “I” statements | “You” Statements | |
| Understanding | Who’s winning or losing |
Although following these guidelines won’t come close to fixing all your conflicts, they will help you move towards each other as you attempt to work through them.
Hans Molegraaf is the President and Founder of Marriage Revolution, a biblical counseling practice that has served over 4,000 couples since 2010. Hans is a Biblical Counselor with over 15 years of experience helping marriages in crisis. He and his wife, Star, personally rebuilt their marriage after infidelity and now lead Marriage Revolution’s Affair Recovery program. Hans has been featured in multiple media outlets and is passionate about bringing help and hope to every couple in every season.
