I’d be willing to put money on the fact that your life is too busy…

When Star and I first got married I was making $10.49 an hour and she was running an in home daycare to supplement my income. On top of that, I was working 2nd shift from 3:30 pm – 11:30 pm and parents were dropping kids off at the house to Star as early as 6:30 am. The schedule was crazy, but we had to do it to put food on the table and pay the bills.

Income was decent, and we were both content with our jobs for this season of our life.  But, we rarely saw each other and hardly ever spent any quality time together.  

Eventually, this took its toll on our marriage.  I don’t believe this was the biggest contributor to our marriage problems, but it definitely was a significant factor.

Fast forward to today with 6 more kids to feed, clothe, and fund extra-curricular activities for, the temptation is high to fall right back into a similar routine in order to accommodate the growing “needs” of our family.

I talk to a lot of couples on weekly basis, and there are very few that don’t struggle with this same issue.

We live in a fast paced, always connected, performance driven, keep up with the Jones’s (and their kids) world.  Between youth group, House Church, sports practices, piano recitals, homework, exercise, and friends, etc… our weeks are incredibly full.

I recently put all my weekly responsibilities on sheet of paper along with the estimated time to complete everything and I learned that I needed 32.4 hours every day!

Our lives are TOO BUSY!!!

And then there’s your marriage…where do you fit that in?

For many of the couples I talk with, what used to be a thrilling, engaged, romantic, loving, fun, intimate marriage, has turned into 2 people living under the same roof, pursuing separate interests, struggling to figure out who’s going to pick up the kids from basketball practice.

If you let it, the busyness of life will kill your marriage.

But, there is another way.  It takes planning.  It takes sacrifice.  But the payoff is huge.

Shortly after God resurrected our marriage, we were encouraged to put a weekly date night on the calendar.

Star and I have found that having this regular time set aside is one of the most practical things we’ve done to strengthen our marriage.

Throughout the week we are wearing so many different hats (mom, dad, boss, house cleaner, referee, chauffeur, mechanic, financial planner, etc…), and without being intentional, there often isn’t any time to wear the most important hat Star and I can wear: HUSBAND and WIFE!

If you haven’t already, set aside one night a week on your calendar that is reserved for you as a couple. Then, go out and remind each other what drew you together in the first place. Encourage each other. Laugh together. Forgive one another. Plan your future together. But most of all, have fun!!

Need some ideas to rekindle the romance?  We’ve got you covered.  Here are 5 date night ideas for you to consider:

  1. Simple questions to ask your spouse to get the conversation started
  2. Companionship Date Night
  3. Working Through Conflict Date Night
  4. Communication Date Night
  5. Goals Date Night
  6. Let’s Talk About Sex

Have fun dating your spouse!