Experiencing companionship was likely one of the reasons that led you to marry your spouse.
Although many marry for this reason, the distractions of careers, kids, and to-do lists often take the place of spending the time necessary to develop this essential ingredient of a healthy marriage.
Companionship – An intimate friendship that occurs as two people are knit together in love.
Every time you and your spouse pursue companionship (dating each other, forgiving one another, praying together, praising each other), the “knit” of your companionship is strengthened.
However, each time you neglect each other, hold grudges, and pursue other relationships ahead of your marriage, the “knit” of companionship is weakened and is more vulnerable to being severed.
DINNER DATE DISCUSSION
- Think back to before you got married. What did you do as a couple to strengthen your “knit” of companionship?
- How has the strength of your companionship measured up to the expectations you had coming into marriage?
- What are the biggest obstacles right now to the strength of your companionship?
- What are some practical steps you can take to overcome those obstacles?
- Each of you think of 1 step you agree to take this week to strengthen the ‘knit” of companionship in your relationship.
- Go somewhere a little more private and tell each other three things you love about one another. Give specific examples of each.
- While mom puts the kids to bed, men create the perfect environment (candles, music, etc..) for “companionship.”
- Sleep well…
IN THE DAYS AHEAD
Pursuing companionship in marriage takes a lot of work. Amid our hectic lives, it takes intentionality and time. As hard as it is, though, it is possible. The “Never Alone” daily couple’s devotional book is a great tool to help start or continue the process. It’s practical, concise, and packed with great ideas to help you pursue companionship in your marriage.
Hans co-founded Marriage Revolution with his wife, Star, in 2010. He counsels couples in The Woodlands, TX, speaks at marriage conferences around the country, and provides leadership and direction to Marriage Revolution.